Knowing how to evaluate someone’s character and knowing whether or not to trust them is a skillset. Unfortunately, most people weren’t taught how to do this. Growing up, many people (myself included) were taught not to take candy from strangers—and that it’s okay to talk to certain people because they’re “nice.”
The problem is, “nice” isn’t a value by which to evaluate a person’s character. Anyone can have a horrible character and be nice for a few minutes. We can get ourselves into big trouble by hiring people or getting into relationships with someone because they’re “nice.” This is magical thinking, and it often stems from a need to be liked.
In today’s episode you’ll learn:
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- The difference between trust and magical thinking
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- Why we need to evaluate a person’s character before we hire them or get into a relationship with them (business or personal)
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- How I was embezzled out of five million dollars in 2004, because I went into business with people whom I thought were nice—without any deeper evaluation of whether I could trust them
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- We have to learn trust, starting with ourselves
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- Why you should hire people based on the merits of what they can do
Plus, I discuss Iyanla Vanzant’s book, Trust, which I consider to be one of the top five “must-read books.” She teaches that in order to trust others, you must first learn how to develop trust with yourself.
Links & Resources
Learn to trust yourself more by listening to these past episodes from The Successful Mind Podcast:
Episode 015 -A Lesson on Trust
Episode 338 – My Three Friends
Inside Episode 370 – My Best Is All That Matters
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